In the Fertility Buddies peer support program, we practice “relationship based support.” The emphasis is on building a secure and trusting relationship. Being “held” emotionally is something that makes us feel loved and valued. It gives us the energy to be there for others. We are there, regularly and consistently and give our Fertility Buddies the freedom and space to process their own experience. We are not there to direct the experience or give advice. This allows the person to feel safe enough to take what she/he needs from the relationship. Fertility Buddies are paired up according to geography, style, needs, and preferences. Confidentiality is an important part of this relationship.